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Last night was my first first date for about 3 years. We met online and spoke for a few weeks, just chit chat and he suggested we should meet up. After photo swapping we became quite flirty, so I had thought to myself maybe I haven't lost it. :)

Profile - 33, divorced with two sons; a financial consultant. 6 foot, well built maybe about 190lbs. Mousey brown hair, nice style, dark blue eyes. Dressed well, casual but smart - he looked comfortable. All sounds good! I liked his photos straight off. He was a good looking man, when he stood at the door I did think he was cute. Then it started going downhill the first thing we spoke of when we met was I looked older than I had said I was. He said I had an "unusual" dress on. I took these in the spirit of the occasion and diverted the conversation to where he was taking me. A chinese, it turned out to be one of the worst meals I had been taken out on, too greasy. As the night went on he lightened up and made me laugh a few times, he spoke mostly about work, which was ok because we work in common territory. I was enjoying his company enough to hint at a second date but he crudely talked about going back to his place, this was a man I had known for maybe 6 weeks! I wasn't about to go back to his place. He looked almost disgusted that I'd say no and believe me he wasn't that cute. He said he wasn't looking for "anything serious", it said that on his personal ad. I hadn't appreciated that translated as "I am looking to get laid".

I took a taxi home and when I got into my apartment I cried, I felt very upset.

Lesson 1 - I have added a filter against those types now.

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I want a man who is strong, mentally and physically. A tall man, with a good build about him. An intelligent man, not necessarily academic but smart. A funny man, I like to be laughing till it hurts. I want a man educated in culture, one who likes film, music and art, one who knows about religions and festivals. An energetic man, one who likes the outdoors and sports. A mans' man, masculinity is important, a man who can fit traditional roles. A mature man, not old or young but mature, wise to the street. A man who is playful but still able to show the boy at heart. A man who can support me, who can show C what a man should be like, a man who can be good with children. A man who will romance me, surprise me, dote on me, who will make me feel good about myself, who will make me feel sexy and attractive. A man with passion, fire in his belly. A man who could protect me, keep me safe. A kind man, with a nice smile. A man who has some touch of emotive capability, a man not afraid to cry. A man with ambition and goals, a man I can share effort with. I want a man who can be my friend and my guide not just my lover. A man with respect for me, that will love me in all my ways. A man naturally kind and compassionate. A man with a sense of style, a man with a defined jaw and bold eyes. A good man.